The Adventure Before The Adventure…

Domestic Allegations of Laura Jane Grace & The Trauma Tropes Ahead of Album Release

On the eve of Adventure Club, the debut album from Laura Jane Grace and the Trauma Tropes, an explosive and deeply personal domestic dispute between frontwoman Laura Jane Grace and her wife and bandmate Paris Campbell Grace has shaken the alternative music world.

What began as a series of distressing posts on Threads by Paris quickly escalated into a public conflict involving abuse allegations, responses, livestream footage, and counterclaims — all unfolding less than 24 hours before the album’s scheduled release.

Paris Campbell Grace posted the following, in a now widely circulated thread:

pariscampbellgrace
31m • Author
“I feel used. Which is crazy, because that’s what my wife tells me every day, that I’m an ‘asshole narcissist,’ that I’m ‘in cahoots with’ this person or that to execute a ‘secret plan’ in which I take all her money, it’s endless.

Our relationship has become a revolving door of my wife yelling at me while I cry, then hours later coming around with only the words…

‘wanna fuck?’ And THAT is the only tenderness I am shown. I feel like an object. Then every night, I get on stage and I sing and try as hard as I can to do a good job, sometimes while she throws death stares at me during words like ‘as if it were an obligation’ during Black Me Out, or sometimes she won’t look at me at all to make me feel disconnected…

I sound crazy saying these things because IT IS crazy, but it is also the fucking truth. I am not a bad person, I love love love this woman, but I don’t deserve any of this shit!! I feel invisible, I feel like nobody will believe me, and I know it’s not right. I feel like I’m living in a dystopian nightmare, everyone every day telling me how much this woman loves me…

while on the daily she tells me she hates me, wants me gone, but if I try to leave that’s an issue too!! I am not okay!!!!!”

pariscampbellgrace
31m • Author
“My wife found me on social media, I asked her out, within two months we went full force together into a life and marriage. She invited me into these creative projects, and I became a full-time member of her touring bands and began recording and writing with her. This was never the original plan, but I was thrilled to be finding my way back to music in a natural way with someone I love. It was all organic, and beautiful…

Rapidly, things shifted. More and more, my wife seemingly started to become resentful towards me for multiple things, but primarily my short-lived experience as a SWer. My wife has found a way to tie it into everything. This threw me… HARD. I couldn’t understand, and still don’t understand, why suddenly for the last OVER A YEAR I find myself daily getting my trauma thrown in my face…

Everything from her scouring the internet for any remains she can find of my deleted OF leaks, or telling me she spends time watching massage parlor porn out of ‘concern’ she will see me in one of the videos, or her saving her telling me her findings of videos of me I have explained are non-consensual in their distribution—to throw in my face moments before sound check on a show day, I COULD GO ON FOREVER…”

pariscampbellgrace
31m • Author
“What is happening to me is very real. I love my wife dearly, but I believe she needs serious help. I have countless times begged for us to go to counseling, to which she often blows up at me over even the suggestion. On the few times she’s halfway agreed, it leads nowhere.

I have no options than to publicly state what’s happening to me because I don’t have a personal support network, everyone in my life is there for/because of my wife. I feel very alone…”

pariscampbellgrace
31m • Author
“Laura Jane met me when I was just on my feet from losing everything I owned to a fire. I was a struggling artist/comic/whatever who had a substantial social following, but was secretly making ends meet doing SW (and OF) for a brief time before we met. This led to assault and being trafficked. I got out, but endured a lot of trauma. When I met my wife, one of the first things I confided in her were my experiences. She made me feel so safe, and told me I’d never feel judged by her…”

Later, Paris posted:

pariscampbellgrace
2m • Author
“This is another example this week of my wife using her massive platform to attempt to hurt me. I am currently locked in my office with all my belongings, and actually really scared. I don’t know what to do here, and I have nobody to turn to. She has thousands of people who love her, and it’s a great inequality of power. She’s been yelling at me since we woke up, I have remained calm (although admit I have cried a bunch after) and begged her to please be kind to me and try to have a good day.”

In a separate screenshot, Paris shared a message to Laura requesting space for her and her child:

“This has been my only communication with my wife since yesterday morning with the exception of logistical questions communicated through others, or her arguing at me from the 2nd floor. I am once again, as someone who has been continuously abused in this marriage, asking my wife to leave the home and allow me to have a safe space to spend time with my child.”

Laura Jane Grace replied publicly:

laurajanegrace
9m • Author
“In the year and a half I have been with you I think you have maybe had your kid a total of 3 months? And when you do have them you throw them in daycare from 8–5PM every day while you smoke weed and look at TikTok. Last time I left and filed for divorce you went and stayed at a fancy air b&b in Indiana. I have a kid that lives in this house too. You leave.”

Others entered the conversation. One user wrote:

“i dont feel safe leaving my belongings?” so she never felt “unsafe” she’s just trying to smear you as a grifter. wow… considering she uses you across her social media. this is so messed up and I’m sorry you have to experience this kind of abuse.”

Paris responded:

“Yeah this all boils down to how she’s never trusted me even tho she promised she did. I know I sound pathetic, but imagine living in a house with someone and afraid to go upstairs cause that’s all their stuff, and then every time they get mad at you they run away with all their shit like you’re some thief when you’ve never even asked for anything.

That and ‘if it weren’t for me, you’d go back to being a whore.’ Like… that’s why I’m doing this, it’s real fucked up shit, and it’s constant.”

Later that day, Laura Jane Grace went live on Instagram, playing acoustic guitar in a calm and clean upstairs room. Commenters, clearly reacting to the situation, demanded she “address the allegations now.” Among them was Paris herself, writing, “Wendy is gonna die.” (which I have no clue what that means but seems cryptic) and again Paris comments “You’re witnessing live abuse.”

In response, Laura conducted a tour of the house, showing viewers each room, upstairs and down — all of which appeared clean, safe, and orderly — and pointed out the one door that remained closed, stating it was Paris’s room. She then returned to playing guitar.

Moments later, Paris appeared again in the chat, clarifying that when she earlier said “tearing the house apart,” she was referring to Laura frantically packing for tour, changing the stories and giving every suggestion of ways to get help, an excuse.

The timing of this dispute — the day before the collaborative album’s release — is not lost on fans. Screenshots suggest Laura has pulled out of all remaining Murder by Death tour dates for 2025, with no official explanation issued yet.

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As someone who grew up witnessing domestic abuse and child abuse, then having later survived a toxic marriage with a narcissistic partner, I recognize the complexity of what’s unfolding here. Neither partner may be blameless, but the toxicity, the damage, and the emotional chaos are undeniable and definitely unhealthy.

This situation is painful. It is tragic. And it is public when it should not be. Paris should never have had to go to Threads for support — but perhaps she felt it was her only remaining outlet. That doesn’t make it right. And it doesn’t make the abuse, if it happened, less real.

But I also watched Laura, in real time, calmly streaming music while being bombarded. I watched the chat spiral into a kind of digital courtroom. And I realized something: this isn’t justice. This is trauma, made content.

Whatever happens next, I hope both Laura and Paris find space and safety, separately — and certainly not like this.

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If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233 or visit www.thehotline.org. You are not alone.

Below are all the screenshots I have taken: